Throughout history, society has often placed the responsibility of money on men. A particular example of this is highlighted in the first sentence of a world-renowned novel, Pride and Prejudice, “It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.”[1] This single phrase—it is the financial position of the husband that determines his want for a wife—leaves the wife’s financial position unacknowledged and perhaps implies that a future wife should search for a man that knows how to manage his finances. Although this novel takes place in the early 1800s, these same ideas in some ways still permeate our culture today, socializing women to believe that men are the money managers. Because of this thinking, researchers have found that women are likely to have lower lifetime earnings and are less prepared for retirement, contributing to greater financial hardship.[2] But it doesn’t have to be that way! We must correct this way of thinking and empower women with confidence in their own financial skills. By challenging these old narratives, women can actively shape their financial futures rather than relying on traditional gender roles.

The newlywed period is a critical transition for couples.[1] Nearly all newlyweds face financial stress, which can affect many aspects of marriage, including marital satisfaction[2] and sexual satisfaction.[3],[4] When couples experience disagreements or challenges around money, they are also more likely to encounter conflicts in their sexual relationship[5] because financial stress can create tension, reduce emotional intimacy, and make it harder for partners to feel connected or relaxed with each other.

Money may not buy love, but it can definitely shape the balance of power in a relationship. For generations, men have been seen as the providers—the ones who bring home the paycheck and, in turn, hold decision-making power. What happens when that script flips and she earns more? Does power in marriage shift with income, or do old gender roles still quietly steer the relationship?

Imagine sitting at the dinner table with your spouse. It is common to discuss different aspects of your day such as people in your social circle or perhaps your job. However, even couples who communicate well about everyday events often have a hard time talking about sex and money, which are important aspects of a relationship. In a new social science theoretical model, it has been proposed that money and sex are both taboo topics that are often regarded as crude, unrefined, low, or even dirty.[i] Probably not considered appropriate dinner-time conversation material.

Ever wonder why some couples can calmly discuss finances while others spiral into arguments over spending? Money disagreements are one of the top stressors for romantic relationships, but the fights are often less about dollars and cents than they are about fairness, responsibility, and the values each partner brings to the table. Imagine a couple sitting down to pay bills, and one partner notices the other spent $200 on new headphones without mentioning it. The argument that follows isn’t really about the headphones—it’s about trust, responsibility, and whether money is being handled fairly. So, what is the difference between couples? In their 2023 study, Peetz, Meloff, and Royle explored exactly this, looking at what couples fight about when money is involved, which disagreements affect satisfaction, and which ones tend to cause the most stress.¹ They analyzed hundreds of financial conflict descriptions from reddit posts and recollections from married couples to uncover what couples actually fight about, which disagreements connect to relationship satisfaction, and which types of money conflicts are most harmful. In this article, I’ll explain what they found, why it matters, and how understanding these patterns can help couples approach money conversations with more empathy and less stress.

Many couples face issues with credit card debt, installment loans, and other forms of consumer debt. Most people understand that debt affects financial well-being, but debt can also impact marital relationships—and even increase the risk of divorce! A study involving 4,574 couples found that consumer debt not only strains family finances but can also increase marital conflicts, lower marital satisfaction, and even increase the likelihood of divorce.[1]

In an attempt to stay informed, I keep up with the news. I find myself fascinated by crazy and scary stories. The feeling part of my brain activates as I wade through article after article which consistently seem to share bleak and dark news. So why do I even bring that up? My point is that it is easy to look at the news and feel like there is no hope for the future. One example of this potential for despondence is a rising national (U.S.) debt and a culture that almost promotes and perpetuates debt. This environment can make it easier to make poor financial decisions. My hope is that by sharing some recent research, we might all find a little more hope in the financial outlook of the nation, families, and individuals.

Finances can be both one of the most stressful and one of the most important topics in marriage.[1] The way couples manage finances impacts not only financial satisfaction but also relationship satisfaction, for better or for worse.[2] Financial management can be connected to marital stability, satisfaction, disagreements, and conflict. Evidently, finances hold a lot of weight. Because it is such a heavy, consuming topic, careful consideration of how finances fit into one’s marriage can be vital to a marriage’s success.

Picture this: you have just gotten home from a long day. Maybe you worked a heavy shift, or maybe you are in school, navigating the complexity of the many demands of your time. In any case, you have had a long day, and you get home late, so you quickly get ready for bed and throw yourself under your covers in the hopes of some very needed rest. Just as you think you are going to finally get some rest, you are plagued with dreams where unpaid bills, interest rates, and shrinking bank balances flash before your eyes—your worst financial nightmare. Okay, I personally have never been plagued with literal nightmares surrounding my financial situation or lack of financial knowledge. Still, I do know I felt wholly inadequate at navigating anything close to financial wellness as I first began to brave the world as an emerging adult.

Emerging adults enveloped by the so-called “decade of decisions” must consider different priorities like marriage, education, building a career, identity exploration, and more, all competing for top of the list. It’s becoming more common for marriage to get kicked down the list—something to be prioritized later. As a consequence, many emerging adults today are waiting to say “I do.” The U.S. Census Bureau reports the median age for marriage is now 30.8 for men and 28.4 for women. This trend mirrors shifting ideas about marriage from a starting point to a finish line.1 In contrast to this rising popular opinion that later marriage is qualitatively better, researchers have actually found that marrying later does not appear to increase marital success but, rather, be a slight risk factor for a lower quality, less stable marriage.2